| 24 May 21:32 |
Sex in a dating relationship is the most controversial topics I have ever seen. Most people are confused as to whether to have sex in a dating relationship or not, some are thinking of keeping it till marriage etc. First
of all, I want to let you know that sex is not love and love is not sex. There is a huge difference between these two words. You can have sex with someone you don't love and you can love someone without having sex with him/her.
Sex has the capacity to kill the potential growth of love in a man. This is because a man can only grow love and get in touch with his feelings when sex is kept out of the relationship for the right time, using the available time to get to know and understand one another, grow love in full capacity and become tolerant of each other. These things take time and when you disrupt it by introducing sex at the initial stage of the relationship, things will not work out. The way God created us is not to have sex first, fall in love and then get married. It does not work that way. It has to be - fall in love, get married and then have sex.
When people in a dating relationship have sex, the focus is on what the sex provides and not on real feelings. A woman can believe she has met her true love, when in reality she only succeeded in making emotional connection due to sex, thereby becoming trapped in something she shouldn't be a part of. On the other hand, a man never gets to that level of love, since what he was supposed to get as a reward for getting in contact with his true feelings and experiencing true deep love, he got at the onset of the relationship. When you bring in sex into a dating relationship, it terminates the growth of love, as sex is the reward of an established and secure relationship and not the beginning of a relationship. Sex cannot be used as foundation for a secure relationship, yet many tried to do it. The issue here is that most people neither support love, nor its development, but rather sex that is likely to result in the destruction of true love. Therefore, abstain from sex before marriage and grow your love instead.
of all, I want to let you know that sex is not love and love is not sex. There is a huge difference between these two words. You can have sex with someone you don't love and you can love someone without having sex with him/her.
Sex has the capacity to kill the potential growth of love in a man. This is because a man can only grow love and get in touch with his feelings when sex is kept out of the relationship for the right time, using the available time to get to know and understand one another, grow love in full capacity and become tolerant of each other. These things take time and when you disrupt it by introducing sex at the initial stage of the relationship, things will not work out. The way God created us is not to have sex first, fall in love and then get married. It does not work that way. It has to be - fall in love, get married and then have sex.
When people in a dating relationship have sex, the focus is on what the sex provides and not on real feelings. A woman can believe she has met her true love, when in reality she only succeeded in making emotional connection due to sex, thereby becoming trapped in something she shouldn't be a part of. On the other hand, a man never gets to that level of love, since what he was supposed to get as a reward for getting in contact with his true feelings and experiencing true deep love, he got at the onset of the relationship. When you bring in sex into a dating relationship, it terminates the growth of love, as sex is the reward of an established and secure relationship and not the beginning of a relationship. Sex cannot be used as foundation for a secure relationship, yet many tried to do it. The issue here is that most people neither support love, nor its development, but rather sex that is likely to result in the destruction of true love. Therefore, abstain from sex before marriage and grow your love instead.
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